When I started my journey of letting go, I came across the idea that our suppressed emotions attract circumstances and people into our lives. This idea was a radical but meaningful concept.

The theory is that any emotion we cannot face becomes unconscious. Once it is unconscious, by definition, we are unaware of its existence; this means we cannot let it go. It is effectively trapped. This feeling then continues to impact our lives in subtle but pervasive ways. 

If we want to release any feeling, we must become conscious of it, and there are only two ways we can do that. The first method is deep introspection and a willingness to truly understand who we are and why we feel the way we do. The second way is for circumstances and people to come into our lives that vibrate similarly to the feeling. The external events ‘trigger’ the emotion, which rises to the surface of our conscious awareness. At that point, we can let it go. 

For example, an individual with a large quantity of suppressed anger will attract angry people or circumstances that trigger that anger. The purpose of this is to integrate or let go of that triggered emotion. 

However, letting go is different from what usually happens. Instead, what happens is that we blame our internal experience on external events, and we try to change those external circumstances. We do this so we don’t have to take responsibility for these unpleasant feelings. 

When we are triggered, we can make a choice. We can take responsibility for the emotion or continue to project the cause on something external to us. The mind always does the latter. However, if we can take full responsibility for that emotion without any blame, unconscious or subconscious, we can release it. As soon as we blame the cause of the emotion on something external, we can never fully let it go. The feeling is re-suppressed, and the same process occurs later.

This suppressed emotion will repeatedly attract circumstances and people into our lives until we take responsibility for its creation. At that point, we can finally let it go, and because it no longer exists, it will not attract those situations into our lives.

This mechanism is different from what most people think happens. Most people think the external environment creates our emotions, but what if it is the reverse? What if our suppressed emotions create our external environment, and this happens for us to heal and become whole again?

An Example

Let’s suppose that we believe that people take advantage of us. This belief will have with it a corresponding emotion that will be trapped within our bodies. People say it is our beliefs that attract the circumstances into our lives. From an energetic point of view, it would be more accurate to say that the underlying emotion and feeling created by the belief attract the circumstances.

This emotion is unconscious and does not sit well in our physical bodies. It needs to be released. Therefore, it must attract situations where people take advantage of us to make this belief and its corresponding emotion conscious. It does this so we can finally take responsibility for it and accept that we are the creator.

At some point, we realise that we are the creator, and when this happens, the belief and its energetic component (the emotion) are released. Now we have a fresh perspective. We are no longer someone who believes we are being taken advantage of. Therefore, we are free to believe whatever we want to.

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